New Orleans: A psychic, a drummer and a bachelorette party

The humidity swept me up in its dewy splendor; the cobble stones threw me off balance just enough to let me surrender to it’s Cajun ways; the Franco-bluesy music beguiled me to put my red lips on.

New Orleans was everything I thought it was going to be.

Beyond the drunken frat boys and middle American families were the deeply romantic denizens stubbornly residing in NOLA to live life as they want to live it.

I can’t pretend to understand what everyday life is like there, but I got hints from the waiter who recommended an oyster restaurant that had gone out of business, from the Captain of our swamp tour whose accent I mistook for a Bostonian only because I had never heard a true Cajun accent before, and from the midget body builder cab driver who proudly showed me his Call sheet from the New Orleans-based film “The Courier” where he had a couple of lines.

The heart of New Orleans poured out from our last night in the Apple Barrel Bar on Frenchmen Street. I had heard drumming before but this knocked me off my heels.

Granted, the group of 10 girls were now down to 7, and soon to be down to 4 – I didn’t stay nearly as long as I would have liked.

But when you see a man who has soaked through his traditional African Dashiki and the white girl banging along right in line – you know you are in a special place. When a white girl can play drums with the best of the black men – they are onto something.

It moved me like nowhere else we had been that weekend. Well, maybe there was one more thing…

The psychic in the square had something to offer as well. We all thought it would be fun to meet with a psychic since New Orleans is kind of known for them…

This is what she told me:

Three gifts I’ve received from a dead relative, the young dark-haired psychic told me. These three gifts all allowed me to see what was happening in my life – 1. vivid dreams told me the future, 2. goose bumps alerted me when something was going right or wrong and 3. deja vu to keep me on track.

She’s right – I get all three often, and I have a feeling it was from my Tia Juanita who died when I was 8. (Believe what you will – I do).

The mystical kicker was when she said I would be pregnant by the end of the year. I laughed and tossed my short blonde hair, (that’s hard to do) and told her “I have an IUD, that’s not possible.”

She stared me down, squinted her eyes and said, “Birth control doesn’t work in your family.”

Taken aback and kicked in the pit of my future baby’s resting place, I gulped. In fact, both my sister and my mother have gotten pregnant while on birth control. How did she know that?? And why am I getting goose pimples now?

Premonitions aside, the rest of the weekend wasn’t nearly so deep. Hurricanes (the drink, not the weather pattern), swamp tours, scavenger hunts and bachelorette parties will do that to you.

This was truly the best Bachelorette party I had ever attended. I’d like to say it was just the place, but it wasn’t. It was also the company.

I hadn’t laughed like that in ages. Rachel has some incredible girlfriends, and I am so proud to be one of her bridesmaids.

Bring on Austin, Texas!!

Below is a video of the last day I was there. I randomly walked down the street, and this was happening.

Vive New Orleans! (Click here if you don’t see the video below).

Chicago’s Food and Weather

Since my last personal entry, times have been busy! Chicago is proving to be a great city with lots of exciting weather patterns and incredible food.  Our waistlines aren’t telling the tale just yet, but if we keep eating like we are, I have no doubts we will be fat little porkers.

Here are some of my faves in Chicago thus far:

We’ve found a local pub where we get 20% off every bill, where we routinely eat BBQ Pulled Pork Nachos and where they have the hottest wings known to man (Jake Melnick’s).

We’ve found our favorite pizza joint where it literally melts in your mouth (Lou Malnati’s);

A great local beer (Goose Island’s 312 - named after the Chicago area code);

Amazing Indian food – for Jock when he misses English cooking (Veerasway);

An Irish pub that costs more than most fancy restaurants, but whose authentic Irish chef keeps us coming back for more. Plus, they were one of the only places open during the biggest snow storm Chicago has seen since the 1960′s. (Fado’s Irish Pub.)

This winter, it snowed. A lot!

But before that, there was a nice respite of a lot of Miami sun!

We have a LOT of weddings over the next year planned. Cities or Countries that will be on our agenda in 2011 for weddings are as follows:

New Orleans (Bachelorette party this weekend)
Austin, Texas
Baltimore, MD
Wales, UK
England, UK
Dominican Republic

So excited to be doing a lot of traveling. Yes, it won’t be a cheap year, but who would turn down any of these places for a good party with our best friends?

Reality Strikes, Now What?

We’re back in Baltimore, Maryland.

Our month long escapade across the roads of America is over. My month long escape from monetary, artistic and logical goals has quickly caught up to me. And here we are.

Here we are in the spare bedroom in the house of my wonderful sister, her boyfriend and my nephew on their blow-up bed. Their very comfortable and hospitable blow-up bed, I hasten to add – but it is nevertheless their blow up bed.

As many travelers know, the traveling is wonderful (if not a bit tiring), the seeing beautiful places is the best and the adventures are what you write home about and never forget – but it’s the getting home afterward that is the killer, and is the part that you forget about. The part that when you’re planning all the incredible things to do in the world that you don’t want to even worry about.

Because what is the point? Of worrying. It will all work out. It always does. (Read this blog post by Alisha if you want to hear her take on it – Bird by Bird. Have I already linked to that in a previous post? My mind is frazzled.)

And here we are back at The starting over. From square one. With three suitcases holding all of our possessions in the world, and our bank account aching for us to make it fatter.

So… I need to find a job.

After nearly two years of working on my own terms, under my own auspices (I just had to look up that word to make sure I was using it correctly – see what a month of driving around America does to the mind!) and making my own hours, it is time to find something to bring in the cash.

Don’t get me wrong, I will still be writing, selling my book and eventually finding a job that I love to do….but in the meantime, hard and cold, and even a little bit pretty, cash is what I need. And I’m not afraid to get my hands grimy.

This lady who lunches is not afraid to hang up her dainty lunching hat and pull up her dirty knickers to get this couple a place to live. (Although before I start getting charitable contributions or letters of sympathy, I want to clarify that we are in no way poor or starving or lacking in funds – we will be if I don’t get a job soon, but we have enough for the general down payments, moving expenditures, food, etc. Don’t want anyone to worry for no reason ;)

Tomorrow I will outline my plan and have something more inspiring to say – or contemplative – or philosophical – or observant….

In the meantime, time to catch up on that much needed sleep. 28 years old catches up to a gal!

Travel and A Book

Just finished writing fairly long post from jock’s iPhone, which probably wasn’t that long but considering the tapping on one finger – it was long enough.
I left my laptop at home to be more “in the moment” during our road trip. So far it’s worked fairly well besides downloading the twitter app and borrowing his iPhone for that. Anyway, while jock is out running a disgusting distance in the searing heat at way too fast a pace, I’m being in the moment with my blog (dirty word, according to Grampy).

To summarize, 2500 miles in less than 7 days in our 1997 gold Toyota Camry. Traveled from North Carolina log cabin in the mountains with grandparents to dinner with third cousins, (or is it first cousins twice removed?) in Chesapeake, VA, beaching it with my best friend, her boyfriend and incredible family in Rehoboth Beach, DE.

Now in hotel after 14 hour drive through MD, PA, IN, IL. Wedding tomorrow of the beautiful Katie and Jim! Really looking forward to it!

Reading the book, “The Help” because my mom handed it to me on my way out the door. And it’s good. Too good. I realized when I finished my workout today and endorphins were replaced by tears at the end that it was because I was in Mississippi in 1965 and my white boss just told me I could no longer pee in her bathroom, but had to go outside and the boy who cuts my lawn got beat up so badly by his white boss that he went blind.
Intense reading. Makes me want to write something that will transport people.
Now off to pick up two friends from O’Hare.

Whitewater Rafting with the Grandparents

This is a shorter post that will precede a longer post. There’s just too much to talk about – Rib Country restaurant with BBQ pulled pork, ribs, roast beef, BBQ chicken and the two ten year old boys who were so fat they needed their own table, Cora and Grampy’s log house in the mountains, Contra dancing at the Folk School (yes, Jock participated!), driving to Tennessee, Georgia and North Carolina in a matter of twenty minutes.

But the pressing story is the one where my grandparents took us on a non-guided white water rafting trip with “8 Miles of Fun on the Nantahala River” with the Rolling Thunder River Company Since 1977! with Grade III rapids.

When the guides did a roll call before the rafts took off, I noticed that we were the only ones without a guide – out of the 85 people there. I looked around at our group – Grampy (78), Cora (a few years younger than Grampy) – not that age really has anything to do with this, but bones do become slightly more fragile at a certain point (apparently, not where Cora’s concerned though)- Jock (had done one guided tour in Africa on Grade VII rapids where he got thrown out of his raft 9 out of the 15 rapids they went through, trudging water) and me (had one experience in Aspen, CO – again, with a guide). Let’s put it this way – none of us were qualified to steer the raft.

However, we were assured that we’d be fine and once we got our brief lesson and decided that Jock would be our captain, we began to feel more confident. Within the first five minutes, Cora and my head nearly got knocked off by a large branch jutting out into the river, but besides that and getting stuck on a rock for a few minutes, we sailed clear for a good two hours, through many rapids and passing many other boats. Jock proved to be a stable and commanding leader and although there were times when his British quietness rang deaf on older ears, the other raft guides complimented our seemingly learned expertise.

Then, the group leaders pulled every raft to the side of the bank. It was the last five minutes of the trip. This was the big one, the big rapid, kahuna, so we were instructed exactly how to go forward – keep raft facing straight ahead, secure feet under seats in front and if we happen to fall out in the 48 degree F water, look immediately for a rope and keep your nose and toes above water.

Surely we wouldn’t need that!

We follow closely behind the raft that we’ve been following the entire trip before a blue boat sneaks in front of us. They aren’t with our company and I quickly point out that they don’t have a guide on their boat either. I instruct our leader – whether he wanted it or not – to watch out for that boat, they seemed to be all over the show, and the guy steering in the back doesn’t have the patented steering motion down at all.

 The first big bump approaches and we pass over it with flying colors, except Jock nearly gets thrown overboard (but I didn’t feel a thing) - this is NOTHING!

 The second part comes up, we watch as three rafts go over roughly, but intact. Then, the fourth one – the blue one – starts to go over. And they STOP. They don’t go over the rapids, but get stuck on one of the rocks directly over where we’re headed. I look back at Jock, he shrugs his shoulders indicating there’s no where for us to go. I look forward and that’s the last thing I remember seeing.

The boat tips, I get flung off and submerge headfirst into the freezing water. The only thought of mine that I remember is: Of course. Of course I am the one who gets flung out of the boat. Here we go

The cold knocks the wind out of me, my head bumps the boat and it seems like hours before I come up for air. The water is swirling and pushing me fastly forward. I can’t regain my composure. Finally, I hear “ROPE! ROPE!! GET HER THE ROPE!!” I fling my arms around, forgetting about the toes up part of it and splash around like butter on a frying pan until I feel a rope, then the rope goes taut, and I hear “GET OFF THE ROPE!! YOU’RE IN A BOAT! WHAT ARE YOU DOING? GET THE F*&% OFF THE ROPE!!!”

Apparently, the blue boat that we were able to push off the rock, grabbed the rope intended for me…or CORA. I suddenly see Jock and Grampy pass by me in the boat and no sign of Cora. I feel like crying. I’m fine being thrown out, but CORA? Finally, I grab a rope intended for me, get pulled to the shore. One of the guides says to me in her southern drawl, “M’aam, please move to the side of the shore.” But I can’t move. I am frozen and in shock. “M’aam, it doesn’t do you any good standing there, please move on over to the side.” My legs aren’t moving, and I notice Cora is still floating down the river – she remembered her nose and toes!

When she finally got pulled out and we are reunited, all we can do is look at each other soaked from head to toe and laugh. We laugh and laugh and laugh. We might shake a little still, but we laugh. Poor Grampy and Jock – they lose their birds to the white waters and here we are just peeling over in laughter. Cora is definitely a tough lady!

Here are some pictures to better describe or click here for a slide show