This has stopped being a person to person issue, this has stopped being a nature vs nurture issue, this has stopped being a gay or state issue. This is a human rights, federal, basic life issue. The right to love someone else is purely and simply the most basic right known to man. It’s what Shakespeare wrote about, it’s what is fair beyond war, it’s what every human desires, needs and deserves – and until we as people realize that love is as basic a need and right as food and water, we will discontinue to grow and exist as a human race.

I don’t care what the articles say about keeping this a state issue. This is beyond a state issue. This needs to be a federal government and country issue.

At the end of the day, the state does not decide if someone from a different country can become a citizen. What happens when a gay man falls in love with a French gay man? They get married in the state of Connecticut, which is beautiful and good – but then they cannot live in the United States because the Federal government does not recognize the French man as married to a United States citizen. And when they go back to France, the same thing happens. So hiding under the guise that making this a state issue is better is a falsity.

This needs to be a country-wide issue, and it pisses me off that this has become a political rally. It’s 2013, people. It’s time for this to stop being an issue, and start becoming a reality. We are all humans. We make choices, we are who we are and despite race, sex, religion or nationality – we should all be given the same rights to love who we want, to have freedom, to make a living and work and pay taxes under the same rights no matter who we fuck, who we love or what color our skin is.

It’s time for the government to grow up, grow a pair and stop being caught in a divisive war that really only separates the minority of ignorance and petulance. What about: “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”

The right to the pursuit of happiness should be able to involve getting married to your soul mate, your true love. Life is ultimately pale and vapid without that, right? Talk about fighting for the sanctity of our country – the Declaration of Independence is what we are founded on and that includes ALL of our happiness – not just the whiteys, the Christians and the straights – but EVERYONE. All us freaks, lovers, and children of the country.

Put this as your Facebook profile picture if you agree. It’s a small, but profound statement – whatever the critics may say.

gay and lesbian marriage equality

To me, this statement is worth opening my blog back up and starting it again. Humans deserve to love and be treated as equals – and to me, this is the single most important human rights issue in America in the past decade. Stay tuned….

I’ve decided that after four years of writing this blog, countless identity changes (thematically, as well as hair dyes), and some amazing memories documented that it’s time to close this chapter. It may re-open in another fashion, another theme, but for now this blog will no longer be updated.

Thank you for following this crazy journey from falling in love in Vegas one Easter Sunday, to moving from Los Angeles to living in Portsmouth with Jock’s amazing parents to finding a great job in Bristol to writing a novel to moving back to the United States and all the struggles and incredible people we’ve met along the way. I couldn’t have done it without you.

Through this blog, I was able to get to know my family a little better (I highly recommend interviewing your parents and grandparents while they are still here, you’d be amazed what you don’t know about them), teach my grandfather that “blog” was not a dirty word, show you my journey from a red-head to a blonde to a brunette, meet some amazing women who shared three answers to my three questions with me, raise over $5k to finish my novel and explore my video-editing capabilities after traveling through Ireland.

Finally, I turned 30. My thirties are going to be fucking amazing (excuse my French, grandparents!). But they are.

Thank you for giving me this outlet, world wide web. You never cease to amaze me with what can be done with you. Thank you readers for being so lovely with your comments and feedback.

I’m still online – you can follow me and give a shout out at my brand new @meagan Twitter handle, or on my author page on Facebook.